Friday, September 19, 2008

bossy bear

My very first report card ever said that I was bossy, and the second one, and the third one, and well, lets just say that I was a pretty bossy child... I like to think I've grown up, that I'm a team player, that I can step back and let others be in control of things, and to an extent, I can, but when I'm tired, stressed or feeling under pressure, I still tend to be rather, well, bossy.

I got in trouble at work two nights ago for being bossy. I have to admit, I don't think the incident warranted the chewing out I got, but it made me open my eyes and begin to reflect on my attitudes and behaviours. I have to remind myself that I am NOT in charge, and that I am NOT always right. That of course, is hard. It's not even that I want to be in charge, or that I disrespect those in authority, it's just that sometimes I see a way to do something and just go ahead and either start doing it, or bypass my supervisor and start working it out with the other staff. I have been told I need to remember that people can come up with their own plans.

So now, I'm making an effort to watch my level of bossiness. I don't want to become totally passive either though, so we'll see, we'll see. I have a big mouth, and sometimes I just need to be just a little quieter...


socialworkemergency said...

Don't be too hard on yourself...I have a big mouth too and although it gets me into trouble here and there, it also helps me to be a more effective advocate. I hear you though - it is a big project to reign it in sometimes!

Anonymous said...

I too had BOSSY on my report cards...and every other evaluation for camp or enrichment activities I did. Phew....glad to know I'm not alone :)